Frustration

What’s the first thing that comes in your mind with the word-Frustration? Do you feel angry, dejected, demoralized or all of them?


No, you won’t find the meaning of Frustration in a dictionary, just like Success you have to achieve it to know what exactly is Success, similarly for Frustration you have to feel it before you can know the exact meaning of it.

I often wonder, is frustration a state of mind which comes out when triggered due to circumstances that we tend to avoid or feel sad about. Another interesting fact that amuses me is, you may be frustrated due to something that happened in your childhood or lets say in a meeting that you had with your boss a day before or an ongoing event that has been following you like a shadow from your past, walks alongside you in your present and even scares to keep following you in your future.

I wish I could simply call it an expression of intense anger, may be I would have to read a few psychology books to get an answer to that. Lets then park this for the time being.

So when do we feel frustrated? If your answer is, always, then there is something seriously wrong in either you or your surrounding environment. So lets leave these category of people. (If you agree with me on this point, raise your hands).

So for those of you who feel frustrated sometimes, when is it that you get this great feeling called Frustration?

I am sure there are innumerable instances, lets see how many of them we can capture.

During our childhood all of us used to get frustrated with a subject called History (counting out the exceptions ofcourse).
[Or]
The Girl/Boy you had a soft spot for, always ignored you.
[Or]
Not having enough pocket money during your College Days.
[Or]
Not being able to crack your first Interview.
[Or]
Having arguments with your Boss on a regular basis.
[Or]
Not having got that promotion that you thought you always deserved.
[Or]
Having a painful relationship with your partner. (Hope I didn’t touch a wrong chord there!). Can we call this one of the biggest forms of frustration? Feel free if you would like to do so.
[Or]
Not able to fulfill your dreams & aspirations and chasing them tirelessly. (This, for one, is surely the most lethal frustration that I have known).

And there are millions of instances like these.

So what do we generally do when we fall under a frustrating situation?

Talk out loud about it to everyone around you (the most common way of showing your frustration), keep quiet and live with it (don’t know how many of us do that), try not to think about it (its easier said than done), try to work it out to make it non-frustrating (we are talking about the doers here), let it pass with a smile (now you need some character to do that), keep your patience levels high and wait for the right time to turn things your way (patience is not easily available, mind you) or just walk out of the situation ignoring it completely (ignorance is bliss as we know, for some people atleast). There could be many more things that one can do while being in this feeling, depends on an individual’s perspective towards Life.

We all go through this feeling everyday while living our lives, how we deal with it is something that makes or breaks us.

The choice as always is Yours.